When we are asked what we want in a potential, or not so potential, partner/significant other/life-mate/choose your own word and put it here, we can all easily recite a long laundry list of desires. They should be funny, smart, educated, employed, independent, ambitious, tall, good-looking, etc.... Of course there is a little variation. For example, some of us want someone short and some of us don't. But overall, we all have the same basic list.
Well, here's the problem with that. Who actually fits that list? I mean, that list of qualities describes someone who is basically perfect. And no one is perfect. We all have our flaws and our faults. We all have something wrong with us. We are all too short or too tall; too fat or too skinny; too light or too dark. None of us exactly match someone else's list of wants. And no one exactly matches our list.
No one is perfect and no one ever will be. This quest it seems that so many are on to find that "one, perfect person" is really a quest for the impossible. Our flaws and our faults are what make us unique...and in the end, what define our humanity. If someone rejects you citing all the ways you don't match their list, is that really a bad thing? I say no! We are not cookie-cutter people. We are individuals with our very own unique personalities, looks, thoughts, ideas, flaws, faults, quirks.....in other words, souls.
And if someone cannot accept the things they like in us with the things they dislike, then why must we accept them into our lives? I mean, there are things we dislike about them as well. And we are as valuable as they are. As my friend Chana Rothman (http://www.myspace.com/chanarothman) sings "You're no better than me. I'm no better than you." [More Than One Way].
So lets just accept all of us for who we are and abandon this ridiculous quest for perfection. Because after all, which of us really fits that mold?
Don't ask my why.
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I disagree that no one is perfect.
ReplyDeleteYou're forgetting about your mom.